hold on! - 10

[u-turn]

I have not seen an attorney yet but that will be a next step. I do not believe that the affair will have a bearing on a settlement, but I will see. (I again have stupidly thought we could work together to come to a solution - ha). Finances are all separated now, business is not yet.

I don't really know if I am DBing any more - I mean, I am still actively improving myself, but really do not see busting this situation and divorce. The rules have just become a way of life now - I do not think much about the rules - they are basically who I am now.

I know the house seems like a game piece. I want her to leave the house and I would stay kids would be 50-50 between us. She wants to stay in the house and doesn't care what I do (stay/go) she says it is the kids house and she will stay with the kids. Though in another breath she says the kids will be 50/50.

So an option is that we will sell and all move. crazy and I don't have the numbers worked out about if it makes financial sense.

I know you have been pushing for DB coaching to others around here. I never did this either - Do you think there is a point to this any more? I feel like we are at a point of dissolving everything - I am accepting this, what do you think a DB coach could help me with?

I really think that she doesn't care that she stays here with the kids. I think it still comes down to her image and the story she intends on telling everyone. and maybe this is a silly game we are playing too.

I do care that the kids are taken care of in both houses (and I have faith that I can create a new home for me and the kids if necessary). I am very resourceful.