hold on! - 10

[Zues126]

You're right U, sometimes I lose track of the timelines involved. I love what V is saying...just kind of edging her out little by little.

Have you consulted an attorney? Is selling the house really the only solution? You can't file a D based on the affair and request the house in the settlement?

It's funny, in my case I moved out almost immediately at my WAS's request. I let her bully me out as those on the forums scream not to let happen. And in some ways it has enabled her to do whatever she has done. But you know what? I am not complaining. I've had my own space, my own life. My kids know damn well I didn't abandon them as I've been closer to them than ever, and am doing everything possible to get more time with them. At the end of the day it might not have been as 'strategic' from a saving my M point of view, but trying to predict what would've made my WW turn around is futile. Oh, my DB coach didn't have a problem with it either when I told her what was going on, so I don't have many regrets.

Point is that I wouldn't want your life to be stuck because of a DB rule. Get a lawyer, get a DB coach, and don't rule out options. Since you know she's cooked, don't let her dictate your life. Maybe moving out and getting your own place and filing would be best for you. Who cares if she "wins". She's already screwed up your life enough, why let a childish game further interfere with what could be a great chance to start over. I mean, selling the house just to force her out still requires you to move out yourself...almost seems silly.

Anyway, not saying you go that route, V and the DB forums are pretty clear on this point. I just want you to feel 'unstuck'.

Take care U!