hold on! - 10

[u-turn]

Thank you V.
I have never left and will not leave MBR. She sleeps in the basement family room and has for a couple months. This will become more uncomfortable for her now that school is going to be over and D15 will have friends spending the night (they sleep there and I will not deny D15 this). W will have to find another spot I guess.

She gets ready in a bathroom that I don't use (but this is not a change), she does keep her clothes in the MBR yet. This will have to change. (she will likely dig her heals in on this too) I will have to move them (but our house is small and I don't know where they would go).

for now she is refusing to leave - says I cannot force her out. She will not file for divorce - says I will have to.

She knows that I will not be in an open R. She claims that we do not have a marriage, so it doesn't apply. I disagreed (duh)

She is very stubborn and has always been (has to be right/has to win). she claims not to be this way though. I do not see her changing her mind about leaving. I am thinking that we will have to sell the house (this is not what I want). This will be a long road (many repairs should happen).

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weird twist tonight. I heard W on the phone with her boss tonight. he is inviting US to his cottage. W came into my office to tell me. I just stared at her in disbelief. She hasn't asked me if I will go, I think she will (she would likely want to still seem like a normal family to her peers).

The gall of this - 6 days ago she wished I would have killed myself. She says we do not have a marriage, we are dissolving our family, but I am ok to pretend with in front of other people for her image. I will not do this. I will say no to this. and this goes beyond the - not while OM is in the picture. There is so much more to this now.

Thank you so much for your support!!