Can it be another round?

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Hi Bright,

I'm stopping by to see how you're doing. This does get tiring at times and like you, we all want to see positive changes in our mlcer's. We all want to see progress of some sort. I think it was you that said that you feel like you're watching "Groundhog Day" over and over and over again. We are and until we "turn off the movie" it will continue to bore us. We have the remote in our hands and can change the channel or pop in a movie that we would enjoy so much more. I would love to see my h move through this a lot faster than he has but as the vets have always said, slower is usually better. We don't want them to miss even one step of their journey and have to go back and repeat what step(s) that they've missed.

The skanky woman that your h befriended it no better than my h's twinkle twat. They all have their individual issues and behaviors but most of them lack morals and are not good people. Not a person that our h's would have chosen for a partner/spouse had they not been in crisis. They chose us for all of the right reasons! Job is right, he hasn't taken any steps to end your marriage. I see that as a positive. uR probably has a few patience shovels sitting around if you feel like you need one.

It's good to hear that you're taking care of yourself as well as your home. Getting our hair done and taking time to pamper ourselves feels really good, doesn't it? Not only that, it helps our PMA.

Being able to take care of most of the repairs around the house is also very satisfying too. There are times when I feel like I shouldn't have to do this alone then I remember what it was like when my h was at home taking care of home repairs. I have so much more patience than he did and I don't miss the drama that he created when he couldn't get something repaired in 2 minutes. Even the cat ran away when he started a project! HA!

Keep doing what you're doing. He'll "wake up" one day and know that he was selfish and have regrets about how he behaved. At some point most of them do but they do it in their time, not ours.

Thanks for posting on my thread. I really appreciate your kind words. I'm going to go there soon to post an update on what I'VE been doing for me!