Mozza, I've seen your advice on others posts and they've always been very sound. Also, I, like others love the reports and style of your thread. I wish you the best in your continued detachment and self work.
As far as the questions, my two take some:
A- it really is up to what you feel you can handle. Ww is the one that broke up the family so she can't continue to expect you to fake it or patch it together when it's convenient for her. That being said, it prob would be nice for your daughter to see you two celebrating her together, as supportive coparents.
B-boundaries are important. If you don't voice how you feel to her or what things she says that cross your line to disrespect, you can't assume she knows. Stand tall, say how you feel a do where your line is and when she crosses it, make it known and hold her accountable. You can never go wrong there.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
