Heavys right, Kramer. She knows you're there and from everything Sandi and others say, that will never change unless she feels loss and questions whether or not you are, a 180 from where it is now.
Right now you being there and even lightly reassuring her hasn't changed her decision for the affair and possibly divorce, so to continue down that action or even pursue more might be more of the same.
I thought my ww was just how you described yours, proud and stubborn. However, she is not herself right now and clearly with the affair, if she wants something she'll make it known.
If she can risk everything you had for that, you don't think she'd risk her pride to tell you she felt differently if that ever was the case?
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
