"FWIW, both my sister and the wife of my best friend have already challenged me on this theme - why can she keep the good parts / friend part of me while walking away from the rest. For some reason this is hitting home with me logically, just not emotionally."
This is exactly why I am pounding a DB coach. I challenge you to read Claire's last post. I want you to hear what she said in her own words. How to navigate this so you don't come across as controlling or vindictive, but aren't a doormat...how are you going to figure out what's the right balance? Trusting your judgment with zero experience in this matter, a poor track record of understanding her, and overpowering emotions...well, I don't see that as effective as someone that's handled 7,500 similar cases.
Yes, $hits getting real already. NC is a taste of the future, and her leaving will be another level. The days of frantically checking your phone every time you get a text to see if it's from her...wondering who she is spending time with...what she's thinking about...right now even if you don't like how she's feeling she's at least sharing it with you. Before you know it a month will go by and you'll realize you really have lost touch. You are no longer an emotional confidant.
Tough road, and I am sorry for your suffering. Good GAL activities. Make sure to invite people along. Don't worry about not having enough 1:1 time. Start making connections with others now. They are your parachute. Pull the release
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
