My wife, as I mentioned earlier, is very stubborn. I'm sure that some of her actions are her attempt to prove to herself that she can handle all of the things that I did when we were together. For instance, I did the cooking, most of the housework, bill paying, and planned all of our trips. I also did the planning and menus for our large family get togethers and holidays. I bought gifts and cards for everybody and she would then sign them. At the time, she was quite happy having me do all this, because she did not like to do it. I truly enjoyed doing all of this, as long as it was appreciated. At the end, I grew more resentful and unappreciated, which caused friction and the affair/divorce groundwork was laid.
The reason I bring this up is because all of those actions that she liked me to do are now described as controlling. I wonder if she is making a point to prove to me that she can do things better than me, and if that attitude puts up unscaleable walls between us. She has mentioned on numerous occasions that she hates to do all of those things, but Kramer is out of the picture now.
I'm not sure what to make of all this, or even if any of it really even matters at this stage. The ironic thing is that she is spending less time with OM now that we have separated, and she seems more flustered and chaotic.
Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15
