I agree about the overreassuring. It can become pressure, because you are reassuring partly in the hope that she won't draw back perhaps....

There are times when you may want to say less rather than more - not reassure - just pleasantly - ok, see you later then...

I agree about the overnight thing. On the one hand your W is talking about an xmas deadline and on the other not staying over. I guess this is where patience comes in....I dont have any wise advice I'm afraid.

The thing I would say is just enjoy where you have got to thus far if possible. Try not to keep looking for the next step and the next. Practice gratitude rather than impatience. And keep up with your own activities maybe too....

I think you're doing really well Edz...:-)

T 13 M 7
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D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus