If and when she blames you for breaking her sunglasses,
LAUGH and walk away and if you can't pull that off, just get out of the room. Sometimes the insanity does not deserve an answer b/c there's nothing to say that can reach someone when they're nutty.
I recall h saying that he felt "misled" b/c I was "Supposed to be in the Senate by now!"
(Yeah, the US Senate...the one where a 100 citizens of our nation make laws and sign treaties? Yeah THAT one. I HAD to ask him why he made such a lunatic remark and yes, I worded it better--
he told me something I said on our second date, over 3 decades ago AND which was something I'd written in my diary that I "want to do when I grow up", which I wrote when I was in 6th grade!
Seriously.
There's no response to that statement of his, other than laughing and shaking my head. I mean, talk about a selective memory, (which may be what I muttered then.)
Thing is, he now has NO recall of that conversation. I ASKED! So, I'm not sure how productive it is to explore -- but it is something you need to set up a boundary for. Do not just take it.
Anyhow, the focus of "From this day forward" is something I wanted to mention. It's in a lot of marriage vows & I thnk that's brilliant b/c I don't believe we can remain married and close, for long, without lots of forgiveness of both parties. That means not constantly looking over our shoulders at the past...
You two cannot reconcile for real, without you forgiving your wife.
What does that look like to you? How, if at all, have you worked on the subject of forgiveness?
I did not see forgiveness growing up. For me, it was a learned skill.
what do you think?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
