What just happened? Kramer's journey continues

[Kramer]

I feel the need to provide a little more information regarding my last comments. Please understand that I am not saying that my wife is not trying to control me or make sure I am still there. However, to be fair, she has told me for years that I am a poor texter. I only look at my phone occasionally during the day and always have it on vibrate only. I am not one of those types that is tethered to their phone and responds immediately when somebody texts or calls. I have been this way for years, and she always joked about it.

Having known her for 20 years, I also think I know her nuances and language. Up until recently, her responses and messages were clipped and short, with angry undertones. Lately, her responses have been more cordial and thankful. For instance, when I told her to call me next time, she said "Aww, that's so sweet". When she was having her breakdown, and I made arrangements to meet with her, she said the same thing and was thankful. She reciprocates my wishes to have a good day. All of these behabiors are vast improvements from the last 5 months.

Having said all that, I don't think it really changes how I should respond moving forward. It does give me second thoughts and doubts, though.

The real ironic/sad/frustrating thing here is that it almost seems like we are both digging our heels in, and waiting for the other person to flinch and make the first move. Instead of just communicating our needs and wishes with each other, we continue along parrallel paths on the way to divorce and the end of our relationship.