With your recent post about your IC's take on your W's MS, this makes me wonder: how far in is your W's MS? I ask because it will be a critical puzzle to your DBing process.
Depending on the severity of your W's MS, you do not want to be TOO dark. Otherwise, she will feel like you don't give chit about her. That is a tightrope that you will need to walk for a while if her MS has not yet hit the severe level.
Know what I am saying here, Bob?
Hello Dear Wonka,
It is so good to hear from you! How are you? Thank you for checking in on me, taking the time to post and make some great comments/suggestions as always.
Her MS has a huge role to play in this. After almost 7 months of separation, my IC and I are more convinced than ever. Not that I didn't make mistakes. Oh, I did! But in everyone's mind except my W, they are nothing to run out and file for D about. But. her feelings are HER feelings, therefore reality to her. Thanks for bringing up the person you knww who has MS. So sad for her. There are 3 types of MS, and it sounds like the woman you casualy knew had the most severe type. My W has the least severe, but it still wreaks havoc when it flares up.
I do know exactly what you mean about not going TOO dark. It is 3 weeks today since I tried contacting her to ask about her follow-up eye dr visit. I know you remember that as you helped me with it. 3 days later she said nothing about it in a text, simply about the dumb AT&T bill. Since then, no contact by either of us.
I have a gut feeling, after much prayer, that she is testing me. You may recall she finally admitted she felt "smothered" by my help and that I (yes, me!) was too needy. Projecting on to me, my IC believes. Do I want to send her a little text or call? Yes! But I think I may wait another week to see if I hear from her first.
Sound like a plan?
*Hugs*
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
