WAW Filed for Divorce Next Day Pt. 4 (Bob)

[Wonka]

Bob,

It is interesting that you and your IC discussed your W's MS. He may be right.

I haven't heard from my W since 2 weeks ago yesterday with the text about the AT&T bill. I am NOT going to contact her. She's still working this out in her head, I believe. If she wants to discuss anything, I'm sure I'll hear from her, so I don't want to pressure her.

With your recent post about your IC's take on your W's MS, this makes me wonder: how far in is your W's MS? I ask because it will be a critical puzzle to your DBing process.

Several years ago, I knew a woman casually who had MS. For a while, she was able to communicate, write letters, etc while in a wheelchair. Over time, she was only able to type a sentence at a time. Pretty much lost the ability to communicate. Her partner of 20 years helped with communication and had a small team of home care attendants to care for her such as bathing and feeding her.

Depending on the severity of your W's MS, you do not want to be TOO dark. Otherwise, she will feel like you don't give chit about her. That is a tightrope that you will need to walk for a while if her MS has not yet hit the severe level.

Know what I am saying here, Bob?

[mahhhty]

Bob,
Nice job with the perspective and the horses. But I think Wonka is illustrating that there is a tight line for you to be walking if possible.... Good luck Buddy!

[rd500]

H Bob. Just to echo the above. I know that several months back Mr Bond asked me if I thought I was ever going to talk to exW again Since the day W left I have not called or text her save for once re the kids. I do answer calls and texts but I'm sure my EXW has no doubt that I don't want to reconcile She has come forward in the last few weeks and I still just talk about the future without us together. I'm just saying each sitch is different and you have to do what works.

I would suggest a quick text just asking how she is This is just my non vet suggestion


Take care. Rd


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[Bob723]

If you win big at the track tomorrow, do we get to share the wealth?

Have fun!!

LOL Eirinn!

Thank you for the post. I had a great, fantastic time!

Well, I won't have to come up with a plan to share the wealth with my friends here, Eirinn. I bet $6.00 on 2 races and won $12.00 on the second, so I broke even and called it quits with the bets.

I met many people I hadn't met thru this group yet, the rain stayed away and I was there for 5 hours! What a welcoming group!!

The thing I'm "struggling" with is that several women my age seemed very interested in me, and I like one in particular. Friendly, down-to--arth, humorous, and attractive. Of course, they most likely think I'm divorced or widowed not wearing my wedding band. I wasn't going to mention it on at a fun gathering--not proper. I have to say, I'm human (really Bob? LOL), and I liked the attention. It gave me even more confidence than when I woke up yesterday.

You all know how much I love my M and want to R, but . . . I'll just leave it at that for now.

How are you Eirinn?

xoxo

Bob

[Bob723]

I just know that you are going to be fine either way because you have shown the strength to take on challenges that have been really hard for you, the open mindedness to learn and the warmth to reach out to others. Those three things will carry you a long way forward in life, however your sitch turns out....

Take care Bob! xx

Hi Toots!

Please, no need to apologize -- I totally understand! I haven't posted much the last few days because I've had matters to attend to and GAL stuff - like the horse track yesterday. Please, if you don't mind, see my reply to Eirinn (a few minutes ago right above) about my "Day at the Races."

Toots, I can't describe how comforting and humbling your post was. The part I quoted from you above is so true, isn't it?

You are such a smart, wonderful person!

Thank you for your time.

xoxo

Bob

[Bob723]

I like to think they are working out how to undo the damage without making themselves look silly. Do you know what I mean? The hardest word is sorry, and that's something they are going to have to say to move it on.

Have a great day at the races! Stay away form the fillies though!

Hi Huddy,

Thank you for the post! How are you? Ironic that you posted the part I quoted from you. Just recently, I was wondering the same thing. So, yes, I do know what you mean. Interesting...

I had a fantastic time at the races! Thanks. If you're curious how it went, pleae see my post to Eirinn a few posts above.

And . . . I did stay away from the fillies. LOL

Stand tall, my friend!

There is always hope.

Bob

[Ripken8]

Bob - I'm like you and don' believe there's anything wrong with self confidence boosting, as long as you are clear about that with those women, if THEY ever bring it up AND that's all you want.

For me, it help with my interactions with ww, because I can see, I don't have to be a plan B, nor should I.

The only thing you have to be careful about is the more you devote 1:1 time to a third part, the easier it is to connect and grow more intimate with them to where the R seems undesireable to work on.

After all, isn't that essentially what happened to our WW?

[Bob723]

Hey Tulo,

Thank you for posting! I broke even at the track. I'm not much of a gambler. If you are curious about more details, please see my post to Eirinn about 10-15 minutes ago. I had 5 hours of non-stop fun!

Yes, hopefully our S will see the new Tulo and Bob!

I hope to check in on your sitch today or tomorrow for sure.

A massive *Hug* or two your way as well.

Don't give up!

Bob

[Huddy]

Hi Bob

Glad you had a good time.

I know it's hard, but maybe you should take up some of those advances. It's all counter intuitive this DB stuff, so if she wants you, once you get attention, she should sit up.

I'll check in again soon.

[Bob723]

Hey TB,

You are a huge help to many, I know you have been to me. I understand how you are feeling. See, it's always earier to look at someone eles'e sitch and feel what the righ thing is to do. It's tougher when it comes to our own sitch because our emotions are involved? Make sense?

As HeavyDd wrote, "Please do see your doctor. It is absolutely ok to be vulnerable at this time. If you do get some Meds to help that would be a good thing.'

I agree with Heavy 100%.

You are going to make it thru this ordeal.

Here's a Bible verse I picked just for you and a prayer as well:
“The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18).

Prayer:
God, I know You are near even when I don’t feel Your presence. Forgive me for turning away from You. You know I cannot bear my broken spirit alone. Please save me as You have promised in Your Word, the Bible. Amen.

You'll make it, somehow!

Bob