Yeah, Cali, you are sensitive to it. She gets angry, breaks her sunglasses because of it, and says "see what you did" or a variation, "see what you made me do"?
That's a problem. Both directions. Here's for the anger, and yours for taking it personally. It's frustration from where I sit. Her being angry and frustrated with herself.
And you're right, taking it out on you.
What you both haven't learned yet is how to deal with that frustration and anger. She doesn't have the tools but sees the problem (now). You have the tools and are seeing more of how sensitive you are to it.
What neither of you have seen yet is the trust that is required to put those problems back in proper perspective. You're too busy emotionally slugging it out and reeling from the effects. Like two punch drunk fighters, you both want it over but neither has seen how to stop it yet.
That's ok Cali. The end starts with "wanting" it to end and with recognizing the problems (with or without blame.)
Like it was mentioned before - frustration and anger are one thing. Always remember it's not about you (don't take it personally then) and remember you control you. You always have choices, so no need to stress out about any of it. Rather, you need to figure out you and what you are able to work through. Together and separately.
There's a test later
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
