Why wait for permission? becuase I have not asked permissin in the past and he's gotten mad Why not head on down there? the rejection when asked is far less than the rejection when an actual physical attempt is made and denied You can even surprise him in the middle of the night a la Ellie. and likely piss him off when he awakes and realizes I've been violating him? Are you filling his love tank first? a yup Is it full? over flowing, he's happy as a pig in sh!t as long as I don't mention MY needs or MY love tank!
I know this has been a constant source of irritation for you. But it seems he is ANGRY about it, not even funny about it... He seems to feel guilty. is he angry or guilty or angry becuase he's guilty or guilty becuase he's angry How could you relieve those feelings, and put him back on the same playing field you are on?? that's what I'm here for? what are your suggestions if any? JMHO nothing humble about it!