BF pls. don't worry re 'highjack' I love reading your stuff (& others)! Your itemized reply to AJ is helpful too.
Originally Posted By: BrightFuture
Pbetra, I know what you mean about not being detached enough. I’m coming to 3 years post DB, and I still have the moments…
Yup, I hear you. Since I am significantly less emtional re: h on a day to day basis, I thought I pretty much had it under control. Whoa! Now i see that I am still close to the starting point !!
Originally Posted By: BrightFuture
Congratulations on losing the weight! I’ve trying to lose a few LBs, but without success. I do meditation too. It helps. How about friends? Do you any close friends, GFs?
Walking everyday in the beginning helped me & cutting down on (not 'out) carbs - I LOVE carbs btw, so it was hard! The metabolism stalls & could easily make you give up - eventually it will 'right' itself with persistence (IF for you, just saying what I did).
Meditation is going well so far & neuroscience is discovering how beneficial this is for us. Had trouble staying focused at one time but that's behind me
I do have friends and some encourage me to join them. My life is not always settled so where some are concerned, I have had to keep a safe distance. I am taking 25yrsmlc advice re making friends who do not know sitch.
Will pop over to your thread soon - my eyes are killing me right now!!! Again, thanks for the highjack!! Appreciate it, p.
pbetra ---- M: 15 yrs (in 2014) BD: 6/03/2014 Infidelity ('known' from July 2014) Denied PA Feb 2015 2 leave Mar 2015 (left early Summer). Some contact. Back briefly 2017 (after family death) Separated 2017
- I LOVE carbs btw, so it was hard! The metabolism stalls & could easily make you give up - eventually it will 'right' itself with persistence (IF for you, just saying what I did). 
