Luke, you know we push you because we care and because we see what you are made of.
I sincerely hope part of that is bacon .... mmmm bacon.
Originally Posted By: uRworthy
I just want to add this. My xh used to work a lot. We lost two babies. My son had health issues. Other life stuff transpired.
I thought he wasnt there for me. I became angry. He worked more. I suffered a depression. The crisis hit.
He thought he was doing the right thing for his family. I thought I was holding the family together because he wasnt around for us. Whose perception was right?
What matters is that I know now that he did the best he could at the time. Had he known better, he would have done better and the same goes for me.
I have let go of the anger. For me. I have no idea if he has. I hope he has. The point is this..you did what you thought was right. You have to own that.
What she feels or thinks is her perogative. Her perception.
So, we want to see you get to a place where when she says this, you dont react the way you do...because that doesnt serve you well, yea?
Pull the button out...it frees you up.
Like I said in the reply to AJ, I do get her side .. I really do but as alot of things I have been the blame for it all .. right or wrong .. mine or not ... she has blamed me for it all .... the spat we had last weekend as she was going nuts she broke her sunglasses, picked them up and said "See what you did" ... I just looked at her like ... "WTF, that was all you and your tantrum" So now .... with many things I have become ultra-sensitive ... sensitive to blame, sensitive to the A/OM, comparing small things .... like if she falls asleep during a movie like she always has done, and I always thought it was adorable has not become in my head "I bet she never fell asleep watching a movie with OM" .... this is all on ME, and what I am projecting .. things I now need to work on, which is frustrating as these things were not issues for me before. I have new buttons to pull out, aswell as the old big ones.
