I have nothing to add compared to Job, UR and AJM. They are so wise with this stuff. I just want to agree, don't look at these discussions/fights with your W as a step back. I think it's part of the process and "working" through the fallout. And I have a feeling there is a whole lot more to come.
I guess what I am saying is to go through these times with the thought process of figuring out and working your way to deciding what you want for YOU. NO decision is needed from you, R or no R. Just work through this stuff until you know. It seems you have some pressure on yourself to know that answer now. Take that pressure off
Sometimes I do see them as just that ... but other times its a clear reminder of the pain that is there, not being addressed ... knowing that its not the right time to address them as she is still processing through her stages ...... to me its like that Rocky scene where he has to take a vicious beating to wear out the opponent ... I know I could hop out of the ring at any time .. but everyone here knows I won't. So I am taking lumps, they are not nearly as bad as they have been.
