Why wait for permission? Why not head on down there? You can even surprise him in the middle of the night a la Ellie. Are you filling his love tank first? Is it full?
I know this has been a constant source of irritation for you. But it seems he is ANGRY about it, not even funny about it... He seems to feel guilty. How could you relieve those feelings, and put him back on the same playing field you are on?? JMHO
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
