Also I want to say to 25Years your advice has really helped me see that the past I have been focused on what H is thinking and doing and now when I do that I do imagine the big STOP sign and it does help and it makes me feel not so desperate or anxious maybe it brings a calm back over me knowing that I do not need to worry about what H is doing or not doing etc because it is not for me to control.
I think I have done much better with H because of this and I am able to focus on my things and not H and I am becoming a little more happier.
