I noticed that when I am having a rough day with the kids or anything else is going wrong I tend to think about the negative stuff more. An overwhelming day with the kids turns into "hmmmmm must have been easy for OW to be so laid back and easy going SHE was only raising two kids and they could take care of themselves..... SHE didn't have twin toddlers and an infant all day"
I LOVE my children but during the affair H didn't give me ANY slack or understanding of the stress that comes with twin toddlers.
I guess when I start to have a bad day I start to think about how critical my H has been about me and try to justify in my mind I didn't do anything wrong.
Not thinking about all the double standards I had for the last few years has been my main goal. (It is ok for his family to drink but I can't have a glass of wine) His dad went to rehab today (I think it's like the 8th or 9th time)
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
