Sorry to hear about how the situation went and its fustrating, however, seems your in control of your feeling a little better. I saw your building a logical step on legal and I would recommend taking steps for your children just so you can rest emotionally that nobody will stop you seeing your children and start supporting your children financially by going through the Children Maintanance service, as they keep record of all payments given to your children. I again feel your a good father, but I too need to tell you, your wife is also a good person and she is going through a hard time because of the circuntances with also parents or friends involvement. However, as everybody told you, keep distance, switch off from wife, focus on your children (main priority) and learn to forgive and who knows, maybe you may be back together.
Alpha, I understood as well as everybody here in the forum, your a responsible person and did so much for her and your children, but are you expecting results back from her? There's a saying from Anthony Robbins (Give more than you shall receive), hope that makes some sense. It's difficult I know, but deal with the legal stuff first, children main course, and then sides second, and continue working on you.
I believe your doing great, and believe me you will feel better.
