Advice Welcome, separating and W moving out soon..

[jedi]

Zeus/TB: thanks for your input. I assumed at some point someone would recommend this, and I've looked into it but nothing further. And I can hear the further response: "why not, what do you have to lose / is this not worth trying everything?!?" And yes, it's worth trying everything to me, so I have no excuse. I personally just came to the conclusion today that perhaps IC would be worthwhile, although I think it's more for another ear to listen more than "help" at this point". I try to keep from monopolizing my time with friends with what's happening as much as a I can DB coaching is perhaps just the next step for me in my thought process, not far from IC at this point but knowingly totally different. I will seriously take this into consideration, this I promise.

I think, for better or for worse, I keep telling myself that while this sitch is bad (moving out is clearly full speed ahead), at the same time I can still see in her eyes not all is lost. and that gives me hope, and a feeling of time heals all wounds, gives clarity, space is going to help, and true alone time for her will help her process this as I have. In all reality, I've had 6 weeks of alone time, life goes on, no change in life or routine with the exception of her not being in it. For her part, while she has been away from myself and our M, and that staying with her parents is likely comforting to some degree, she has not yet even scratched the surface of what being truly alone and self reflection has to offer. Or at least that's my opinion.

As for Cadet's homework, I've seen that welcome post enough times that I'm probability way ahead, but reviewing is never going to hurt.

11 months, wow. Seems so far away to me at the moment, but I know that's a drop in the bucket for most of the folks here. I'm not sure I'm there yet, but here's to detachment: <insert beer emoticon>