You sound more comfortable than I have seen in some time. Is this an epidemic of this around here? Some folks are doing SO much better it's almost disgusting....but I think it is great..
something that I've noticed in the year or so that I've hung around in piecing...we all have ups and downs. Ironically the ups and downs often coencide with the ups or downs of others in piecing. The really weird part though is that often we don't even know it til we venture out and read what others are going through.
I am more comfortable than I've been in a while. Basically allowing myself to be comfortable. Stopped tourturing myself over "how could you allow this" etc and well it's pretty damn good living my life for me and not worrying what other people think of my decisions.
yes Pam, there are more than 10 (4 started by others on my behalf, plus a few others I couldn't find)
took a glance over some of them and DAMN I was a royal pain in the butt! So many people were giving me GREAT advice and I just couldn't get it. I was too wrapped up in feeling angry, scared, self rightous, doubtful etc etc etc.
I can't bear to read all of them but what I have glanced over makes me think...if I could do it all again knowing what I know now things would have been so much easier...but then I did know what I know now I just wasn't accepting it for whatever reason.
You and me both. I don't know any more now than I did last year. I am just in a better place emotionally to accept it and use what everyone has been telling me for so long.
Damn shame it came at the cost of my marriage.
I don't read my old ones either. I can't imagine why anyone else does either but I am very appreciative of the fact that they do and I get such great advice and support!!!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
what you know now is what you knew before but you are learning that you can't be run by your emotions.
In glancing over my old threads I see that I was very much led by my emotions...even justified my emotions. Thing I realize now is that though our emotions may be justified, using them as justification for our actions is not.
what you know now is what you knew before but you are learning that you can't be run by your emotions.
In glancing over my old threads I see that I was very much led by my emotions...even justified my emotions. Thing I realize now is that though our emotions may be justified, using them as justification for our actions is not.
LL
Copying that to my thread to remind me of this because it is VERY important in my life now.
I am a very emotional person and I am tired of my emotions running my life.
Thank you LL
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Something KML said here once really stuck with me. It was something about how feelings are important and valid, but feelings are often temporary, mutable things and NOT always based on reality.
I think for many of us, making assumptions has been a big problem. So if we make assumptions (faulty ones) and have feelings due to those assumptions, we are poisoning our inner world. If we act on those feelings, we are often poisoning our R's. This is real basic stuff, but for me it took a lot of work to change those mental "bad habits", and probably will take upkeep for life!
I don't know any more now than I did last year. I am just in a better place emotionally to accept it and use what everyone has been telling me for so long.
