Hi Sunny! Almost bumped your thread just to say hi but didn't want to bog down those that needed help and are in pain. But hello!

Yes, that's a good point about medicating with fantasy from the future. I have thought about that a lot. You're right, I'm not sure that's what I'm doing. It's more like the way I practice before a pool match. I am just kind of thinking about the goals I'd like to achieve, fleshing out what I need to work on, imagining how that might go. Visualization is a powerful and magical force, law of attraction, all of that. I now know exactly how difficult M is and am actually looking at it almost like a competitive challenge. I can't wait until I feel neglected, misunderstood, and hopeless...just to see if the tools I'm building can fight my way out of it! I'm joking, but only a little.

I read your list and agree...it's hard for us to always know what's best for us. Do we ever really know what we want? I think it's good to have a pretty good idea, but we'll all have to flex a little. It's like buying a used car. You can't factory order it the way you want...but if you're looking for a domestic SUV with room for your kids in the back and a good sound system, you should be able to make that happen, even if you end up settling on the color or something. But I have faith it will work out.

I think I just outrambled you. Told you I was competitive. smile


Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15