Thanks Kat and AJ. This summer will be a big change as far as our kids go. D17 will be going to an out-of-state school. And I will have s13 during the week, perhaps full time.
Ok, quick story. It is weird how our minds grow healthier as we detach. I text W at 11 am this morning to see if I can bring s13 back to her place. W texts back, wait until noon to bring him back.
What would you think if you were asked to wait an hour before bringing your child back? I know my mind's immediate thought was W has a guy over and wants to give him time to get out before s13 gets back home.
And you know what, for the 1st time in my sitch, I didn't care. In the not so distant past, I've imagined seeing a guy at W's place, and me playing it macho and perhaps even getting physical. But this morning I resigned myself to the inevitable, out-of-my control certainty that some day it will happen - I will meet up with someone my W is seeing. And I didn't care.
Funny thing - W texted a few minutes later saying she had the flu (bottle flu?) and wanted time to clean up before s13 came back. And I didn't care the least whether she was telling me the truth or not.
But this morning I resigned myself to the inevitable, out-of-my control certainty that some day it will happen - I will meet up with someone my W is seeing. And I didn't care.
and wanted time to clean up before s13 came back. And I didn't care the least whether she was telling me the truth or not.