Zephyr what I meant by denial was if she started to say things like I love you or I miss you or cry about what happened, I would deny that I need to watch actions and immediately reach to take it at face value.
Yes, absolutely understood. These things they say may be true, may not...we are in denial about how genuine spouse may be, it suits us for them to be true. I am so guilty of this still after all these years of struggle. That is why living for ourselves is so important, being able to be happy through our own graces and actions is paramount.
I am glad you are working on yourself, went to first meditation group this weekend, was interesting and something I will be incorporating into my routine, maybe not daily...I could feel a difference right away, crazy...right?
