Have you been to a lawyer to check your legal rights as the children's father?

I'm not sure everything you told her about the phone use during this trip. I thought you said you needed the disconnect time, but she has proven that she intends to keep you connected. I think you need to stick with whatever you previously told her.

My advice is not to just turn off the phone without first telling her that this back & forth contacting doesn't work for you, and that you are turning off your phone for the rest of the time you are gone. If she doesn't hear any more, that means things with the kids are fine.

You may receive different advice on some issues in your stitch. In the end, remember you make the decisions and live with the results of it.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!