Rd Moving on 6

[Sotto]

Hi RD, I think she's just seeking something that will make her feel better. Coming over here to her parents seemed like a good plan, but then it's also a bit mad in that she has to give up so much in terms of flat, job, seeing the family and OM (not OM?). And plus there's the lease and so on. I think she just can't really make good decisions and pull her life together right now. She's dangling around on the end of her rope and can't get a toehold.

IMHO, she can only go on like this for so long, she sounds so miserable. I'm glad that the kids have such a stable and loving home with you though RD. They are lucky indeed. It could be far worse for them, even though I'm sure it isn't easy.

Can I ask you what no longer standing means for you RD? You mentioned the five year 'wait' period for D. Does that mean you could not D on any grounds prior to that? Does no longer standing mean that you would not wish to reconcile with your W at all - even if she wants to? Does that mean you would potentially start dating if you wanted to? I'm not asking to be nosey - just to understand where you are at with things..

I just wrote to my L. Looks like we are underway with house sale and finances. The only thing is, I'm not sure whether H is 'assuming' I'll be filing for D now. He may get a surprise when he hears from my L...oh well. If he wants to file, he can do it.

Have a good evening RD xx