Hi Toots thanks for thinking of me. Last few days have been up and down Friday I got a text from W saying sorry about crying down the phone on Thursday She text that she has some very "bad days " and finds them tough to deal with.
I texted back that it was ok and this was tough for everyone
D10 decided to go to Ws flat with D14 and I did feel a little worried for her. D14 talked D10'into it but D10 said she enjoyed it. When W brought D's home I was out shopping with D16 for some new clotthes and as we were driving back W called asking where we were. I find this annoying but but just answered I was in my way back. When I got home W was happy enough and asked to speak to me in private. She told me that she was really pleased that D10 had gone down to her flat and they had a great time. I answered I was pleased because if she went back to UK then the kids needed to spend some quality time with her before she left.
She then told me she was unsure about going now because she has 4 months left on her lease. I said I thought going back to the UK was a good idea because she was obviously very unhappy and maybe time at with her mum and dad would help. She then told me she would be getting the bus to work on the days that she didn't collect kids because she couldn't afford the petrol. I did offer her noney for petrol but she said No thanks She also told me she was going away for a weekend on a course for work. W then told me that her dad had offered to pay for her ferry to bring kids over to visit him and her mum in the UK. Me said she was tempted but couldn't really afford the petrol. I simply a nswered kids would proberbly enjoy it and I said no more
I then told W that I was taking kids away for the night and taking them to the wildlife park. This did not go down well. W started crying saying I did not have sole custody and should have consulted her. I pointed out she would be leaving the house in about ten minutes and not seeing the kids until the next evening at the earliest as she doesn't always call on a Sunday anyway. W then went in about how she would have never taken kids away in the past without telling me I did say that's when she lived at home and while I saw her point it was only for one night when she wouldn't be seen g them anyway. She said she might have liked to go had she not been working The. She asked what happened if we had crashed , who would tell her. I said my next of kin and she asked who that was now. I said that's this conversation was not worth having for either of us I then left with D10 to collect D14 from dancing.
This morning I got a text from W wishing us a great day and saying she was on her way to work. Once Iwe got home I did text her to say all ook and she texted back thanks for asking and telling me her day was dragging W then called into house on her way home and got into an argument with S16 and left crying
The trip to cork was great and we all sang and danced the whole way back D14 did have a small cry while we were at FOTA because she missed her mum but we were all good by the time we got back.
I made a roast dinner with 4 veg and custard and cake for pudding. S16 is now studying in the study S20 is studying upstairs. D10 is on her phone with the devil cat on her lap calling out anti jokes and D14 is curled up on the 3 seater , sleeping, under a blanket at one end while I'm lying at the other end under the blanket typing this. MotoGP is on the tv and heating on. Settled in for the night and life is good
I'm ok with my choice to no longer stand. W is lost , I think that's clear. Not sure if her talk of going back to the UK is some sort of cry for help or not. I do believe she is regretting a lot of her choices but she is the type to live with her decisions As I say I'm not sure if she's thinking straight or not but I will continue to be here for her but from a different perspective
Thanks for reading the whole post and any thoughts greatly appreciated
