This is tougher than I imagined..

[Elly4]

Hi Cherry, I saw your post on my thread and came over here to see what was going on. I'm so sorry that you are struggling right now. Sometimes it would be nice if it would be easy...but then I do know that if it's easy, it's not as worthwhile.

I am not a vet on this so will just give my two cents. Has he ever truly owned up for his betrayal and his part of what caused your marriage to falter? I know that you have done a great amount of work to find out who the best Cherry is. Has he done any work to find out his best side? Are you two going to counseling together?

I think he needs to understand that there needs to be trust rebuilt in your relationship and in order to do that communication of what went wrong needs to happen. Maybe set a time each day that you both check in and talk honestly? Set it for 15 or 20 minutes and then move on.

I think it is perfectly natural that you would be thinking along the lines of your images if you're not allowed to process what happened.

I wish I could give you a physical hug right now. I can tell you that I have faith that you will get through this time too. You have so much strength and love in you that you will figure out what's best for you and your child.

*hugs*
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