hold on! - 10

[u-turn]

She said that this has nothing to do with OM (though she said she loved him - grrrrg). She only realized things about herself because of him.

We do not have an open marriage, since we do not have a marriage.

She does still blame me for her affair - because I didn't trust her.

She still wants to act like a family - for the kids. She thinks this is best. Hates the fact that I cannot do this and says that I have pulled the kids away from her.

She really thinks we just grew apart and that is what she will tell the kids. (I told her that we didn't just grow apart and I didn't want to teach the kids that this is ok - she says it happens to people all the time)

Thinks I am weak for going to IC and that this is her (IC) fault that I am doing this.

She thinks that I am acting like a victim and making the kids believe that.

She says that I am just trying make this all my way (maybe that is true).

(I disagree with all of this) - I just told her to go live her life.

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I think we are done talking for a while, but how do I explain to her that none of this has been fair for me or the kids, and these are the consequences to her actions? I don't know how to proceed with this - I am spinning - could use some advice.