hold on! - 10

[u-turn]

Well - I went for it. I told her that I want her to leave.

She is digging her heals in as I suspected she would. She says she is not leaving - that I am free to go. She is going to stay here with the kids. That I have the money to get my own place.

There was a lot of talk about blame - I owned my part, and she owned hers, but does not think that her part warrants her leaving.

Solutions?
I leave (and I look like the one that walked away from my family)

We sell the house and both go our separate ways - maybe this is best (except financially). I am not worried that I will not have my time with the kids. (she is trying to hold that over me).

Hope she sees that it is fair to me for her to leave (this is unlikely to happen).

Her parting words with me indicated that she thinks we are in the best possible situation right now. No marital solution, in house separation, she continues with what she's doing, I am free to do what I want.

I stayed calm, disagreed with her - but this went nowhere.