Thank you one and all for checking in to see how I'm doing, offering words of encouragement or compliments that are very kind.
I have a question? What would this forum do without all of you? I know I love hearing from anyone who takes the time to peek in. It makes me smile.
Huddy & Smothy, how was your day? Yes, someday I know our spouses will realize what a mistake they have made. My IC has said that he is "positive" my W will want to rebuild a realtionship with me after the D is final within 6-12 months. Why does he think so? Because of her MS, and once she's really on her own (not like now with her Mom) she'll realize how much I did for her and cared for her. I'm not boasting at all. I may not have his quote exact, but that's what he said. He's seen it happen often where one S becomes the 'caregiver" of the other S.
TenBook, how was your day? What a kind thing to post! I feel the same way about you. You seem to be involved in so many other's sitches. We'd be lost without you, TB.
Defacto & Eirinn, how was your day? Mine was as good as could be under the circumstances. The GAL and PMA are really helping. I do have "Meetup" plans with 2 different groups this weekend:
Tomorrow night, dinner and a movie.
Sunday afternoon, a day at the horse track -- one I haven't been to in years and we are expecting (are you ready for this?) 120 people to show up!!!
I'm in no hurry for the weekend to fly by, but I am looking forward to both.
I haven't heard from my W since 2 weeks ago yesterday with the text about the AT&T bill. I am NOT going to contact her. She's still working this out in her head, I believe. If she wants to discuss anything, I'm sure I'll hear from her, so I don't want to pressure her.
I don't have that detachment fear any longer. It's gone, and I think it's because of the loving folks here, the GALs and a different perspective on my part -- it's out of my control -- whatever is meant to happen will. It is truly in God's hands.
Do any of you have any plans for the weekend? I hope so!
Hugs to all - yes, even the guys. LOL
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
The horses! Sounds like a great day out. Hope you get a winner.
The NC thing is hard and I live in the same house as W. You seem to be doing OK. Got to keep on the path. I'm sure your W will realise what you do for her and will eventually work out that she's dropped the ball. We all hope that, right?
Have a good day.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Thanks, I hope I get a winner, too! Your encouraging words mean so much to me. A while ago, I had a phone conversation with a buddy of mine I have known for 47 years...no typo...47 years. I have 2 others as well--we went to the same grade school.
At the end, my buddy said, "Bob, you sound like your old self again." He noticed! Now if only my WAW could notice. Oh well, as you wrote "Got to keep on the path." And yes, we all hope that.
I posted this little prayer in Pyrite's thread. I'll post it here, too, in case folks miss the post. It is short and to the point:
"Dear God, what happened to my marriage? Place Your healing touch on my gaping wounds. Save me, Lord. Amen."
I'm off to GAL-land!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Hi Bob, sorry I haven't posted for a little while. I have been reading and keeping up with your sitch.....just been busy with new job and a little preoccupied with my sitch...
Glad to see you have been GALing like a trooper. I see a big difference in your posts recently. Earlier, you were counting the days before you could contact your W again and so on. You're showing much more independence and outward lookingness (I know, not a word) now, which is great. And it's lovely to see your continued warm-hearted wishes to others on the forum.
I just know that you are going to be fine either way because you have shown the strength to take on challenges that have been really hard for you, the open mindedness to learn and the warmth to reach out to others. Those three things will carry you a long way forward in life, however your sitch turns out....
Take care Bob! xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Well, if somebody can notice down a phone line, then your W must be noticing. If she's anything like my W though, they get stubborn and need space/time etc. to calm down.
I like to think they are working out how to undo the damage without making themselves look silly. Do you know what I mean? The hardest word is sorry, and that's something they are going to have to say to move it on.
Have a great day at the races! Stay away form the fillies though!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
I hope you pick a massive winner at the tracks and I'm sure your W will notice that your getting closer to your old self again. Or should I say new self, as we all are working on bettering ourself..
Really like the prayer..
Big hug!
M: 44 H: 43 ILYBNILWY: 7/4-15 Decided to try to reconnect. "This doesn't work, I have no feelings": 20/4-15 Scheduled "talk" :9/5-15 It's over: 9/5
I am pretty lost. I'm helping others because it makes me feel less alone. It also tells me I should be following my own advice.
I'm going to schedule with my doctor and tell him my situation. What I do know is that I could be depressed and not even know. NMMNG taught me that it's okay to be vulnerable and ask for help.
