The "talk" scheduled for Saturday..

[Pyrite]

Tulo, re: the NC rule

I just had the weekly update email from my W about the girls before we change over Monday afternoon.

It hurts me everytime. It is definitely easier every week but we are also negotiating re-location of the family - all to suit her new life BTW - and it is very hard. It is hard to get the email from "W Maiden name" (which she started after BD in Jan) and it is really hard to reply - adhering to NC.

i.e. No smartarse digging comments, no R talk, business at hand ONLY. Every time I think I could just say That I understand, I have change "those" things, maybe I could make a difference. But the truth is that she didn't ask and she hasn't listened or even heard anything I have said to her for months. There is no reason to think that she would now, or even that her and her BF would not be having a good laugh while they read it together.

So, business only. It isn't immediately satisfying, but the next day, tomorrow, I will be grateful. So the NC rule brings them to you (maybe), at least by stepping backwards you give them the space to move forwards, and it saves you your dignity.

I wish I had have applied this months ago. In February I was still sending her R type emails. I am sure she was sharing them with her boyfriend. The last one didn't sound like her at all. One line suggesting I get a (Dear) diary. I so wish that I hadn't embarrassed myself, pouring my heart out, only to get p***ed on again and again. Sandi wrote in her thread about WW's that one thing is that the WW has lost respect for her H. This would surely not improve that. I dont know why that wouldn't apply to WHs as well. Maybe he doesn't disrespect you now, but he probably will if you pursue him.

hey, I'm already starting to feel a bit better . Thanks.

godnatt