The "talk" scheduled for Saturday..

[Pyrite]

Sound wonderful with walks by the beach on your lunch. What country are you in? Oz?

Ja Oz

I also see that Zeus has come a long way compared to where I am. I know I'll get there, I just don't feel that I'll get there.

Guaranteed he felt that way to at one time.

I'm only on the newcomers forum at the moment, but wonder about this with NC. They say that it's a way to create space for your self but also for the other person to be able to think and start to miss you.. Has anyone here have that actually work? It feels very unnatural as many has pointe out, but it is the best way to get over someone, I'm sure. But is all this with NC as a way for them to miss us, really just a way to soften up the blow?

It has worked for many. Have you read DR/DB yet? NC the whole bit.

I find it easier to cope with this when I talk to him about just ordinary stuff, and if it already is a done deal that we never will get back together maybe I should do what is best for me and let the contact fizzle out instead of turning of cold turkey. He has said he's not going anywhere and that I can call anytime, but I don't want that since I don't want to be a pain to him..

It won't go cold turkey even if you plan it that way. Let him contact you. If he doesn't you'll have your answer in that regard as well. I know how you feel, "If i don't make the effort then ...". But you don't want that sort of R anyway.

Agh, I'm rambling on and on.. Got a feeling I'm going to have one of those days..

I feel exactly the same as you, how can they just move on so easily when on our end it's so hard?

And I hope the good feeling with being in control will come when I am anyway near any sign of having a shred of it..

One week in from "the talk" and a few more weeks sine trouble first reared it's ugly head. Think I need more time...

Big hug to you from me.. And THANKS for replying!

It is too early to expect such progress. you definitely need more time. Take care of yourself. Keep rambling when you have to. You'll get sick of answering your own questions. You will feel a bit better about this everyday. But it is never always progress in one direction. You are hurting. It is normal that you are. You have a right to be. There is no shortcut. I'm sorry. But you are in the best company you could be.
-Py