The "talk" scheduled for Saturday..

[Pyrite]

But does detaching mean to loose hope too? I kind of read it that I ought to detach from him, not necessarily detach from the hope to one day get him back.. I'm Swedish and haven't got English as my first language so maybe I misunderstood it..?

Thats kind of my point really. As I have said to Smothy a number of times. Early on I read something that sticks in my mind as what I should be aiming for. We want to be in a position where we can think of our S, be talking to a friend etc and honestly report

"I am open to reconciliation, I am not waiting".

How this fits in to hope is another issue to resolve. Dont get me wrong, I struggle everyday with this and the M breakdown and all. Sometimes all day. In the first few months absolutely all day. Personally I think that ..... hang on, i'll rip what I said to Smothy

AND Smothy, I sense from all your responses that you are afraid to jump. Afraid to lose hope. I can understand this. I felt this too. BUT let me reassure you that losing hope, gives you hope. Decide that the M is over. It is done. Welcome to the world of tomorrow smile.

When the dust settles, walk out into the sunshine wit your arms open wide, ready to embrace the new world and the new you. Your H will be around. You may be attracted to each other again. You may not. He may like you, but you are not interested. who knows - it is the future remember. You can control you, now, and that is it.

oh - your English is great BTW. Infinitely better than my Swedish