Yes, Lisa! Even though I'm not really trying to date just yet I think this will be an issue for me, too. Case in point - look at my post just now!
I think what you are describing is what it feels like to be vulnerable - to open yourself to rejection. That's bound to be tough right now because we've just dealt with/are dealing with mega-rejection. I think things have a way of working out though, so in time I bet the right guy will come along and make you feel ok about being the natural you...and those little voices will become barely audible.
Hang in there, LisaA!
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014