Bob/de facto, thanks. It completely makes sense. However logic doesn't always communicate with my heart. I'm sure when I go dark after moving out it will help and be easier. Can't imagine being in a constant up and down roller coaster ride by staying in the house. Wondering who's she's texting, when she's coming home, etc.
I know I'll need help IF ww ever moves towards me and starts saying things like your wife has de facto. Right now, I think I would melt.
Sure I'm no ones plan b, but right now all I think of is maybe if we tried and both got help we could finally be happier and stronger together.
The denial stage is tough
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
