When do too much GAL, I actually feel worse. I’m drained out of energy. I have the personality that benefits from time alone. I recharge when I’m alone. Plus, it helps me to work on myself, dig into my issues.
I think you misunderstand what GAL means then, m'dear. At least to me, it means doing what recharges you. What it is that makes you feel alive. The fun things you've wanted to do.
For me, an extrovert at heart, it usually means being in a crowd for several hours. In the thick of things. Sometimes, it means being alone and getting some things accomplished that I've neglected.
For you, it may mean spending more time alone. But only if that's what works for you and helps you recharge. In many cases, we need a balance of both.
To me the point is to live your life as you WANT to live it. And in some cases, we don't know what that life would look like without our long term partner in the picture. So we often encourage people to try things they haven't done before (within reason) and "explore" the life they may not have even considered existed beyond their previous relationship.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
