Can it be another round?

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Bright,
I see nothing wrong w/his choice of words about his mail. He's just telling you that he is expecting his truck registration. That's important mail to him. I know everything that came to my house was important to my xh, i.e., right down to junk mail. Mail is very important to them for some unknown reason. Me? Junk mail is filed in file 13 and out at the curb each week, to them, it's important. LOL!

Okay, here's something that's been bugging you for quite some time and we've had some chats about it and now it's come up again: "If I get some important mail”, “I am expecting my truck registration”… My first inclination was to tell him that it is not my concern. Kind of interesting how he expects thins for him in MY house." Bright, unless you set your boundary about the mail, he's not going to expect things to be any other way and he will continue to have the mail sent there. He doesn't think that you mind receiving it and then forwarding it on to him. Neither one of you are mind readers, so...you need to either let this mail thing go or tell him how you feel about it.

Bright, what makes you think that your marriage has ended? I don't see that at all, unless there are things you've not shared here. I see a man who is working away from home and on a quest to find himself. He's not filed for a divorce, nor has he told you to do so. His mail is still coming to your home and yes, there is also the vacation home. Had this man called it quits, trust me, you would have been divorced by now and things would have changed drastically...but they haven't.

Quite frankly, I haven't given up on your situation. I've seen a shift in what you've shared w/us, both w/him and yourself. He's being nicer and is now addressing you by your name. He senses that you are growing more independent by the day and are living your life to the fullest. He does sense the changes you are making whether he says anything or not.

Continue moving forward and I do hope that you have a great weekend.