You pursue her merely to add/retain great people to your life. You are not saying “I love you so very much and all I want is for you to please stay with me, give us another chance, blah, blah, blah”, rather you are saying “I like you because you do/are this, and I’d prefer to keep you in my life.” Your mindset has to shift from “wanting to become part of somebody else’s life” to “inviting the person to remain a part of yours”. You’re offering your woman the chance to remain part of your (awesome) life because she has earned it by doing/being whatever makes her great (or simply because it would be best for the child you both love if the two of you tried).
In doing so, you’re not only giving the person some validation, you’re also leaving it up to them to accept!
Inviting her camping is not "bad pursuit". It's inviting her to be a part of YOUR awesome new life. She's heard about this life but, if she's willing to come along, she'll actually SEE it in action.
LOCK THE PHONES IN THE GLOVE BOX (this ACTION would be another good indication of being on a real roller coaster ride progressing towards recovery. Wayward spouses never give up control of their phones and by locking it away you wouldn't need to worry about her sneaking off with her phone to maybe or maybe not communicate with anyone else freeing you BOTH up to live in the present).
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
