Why do you think you made a bad decision in marrying your h? He was a good man up until he hit his crisis.
Job, when I met H and married him, then met his family, I saw some red flags right there. I ignored them at that time. Yes, he was a good man, but I think he was a slow ticking b0mb. I remember some of his actions and comments about his family.
Originally Posted By: job
Would you feel the same way had he been hit by a train and was in the bed in a coma?
The thing is that I feel that H made a very conscious decision about ending the M. And the way he presented it… He said that there was a phase of this life before me, then there was a phase of this life with me, and now he wants to have the phase of his life after me. It is like he didn’t want to play in this sandbox anymore, and moved on to a new one. This has nothing to do with the outside circumstances like getting hit by a train.
Yes, he made some bad decisions… And it hurt…
Happy, I am living my life. I’m doing things I haven’t done before, I’m going out, I’m meeting people, I’m working and making my living. Heck, I even do some house repairs. I’m self-contained and don’t depend on anybody. Well, maybe on this board, because I tend to slip back and need some support.
But, this is not how I envisioned my life. I think I still cannot fully switch the gears, thinking that somehow my dream will return. I don’t know what else I need to do to get myself out of this hole.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
