To eavesdrop or not to eavesdrop?

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TKKC1,

Thanks, I feel the same about my kids. I actually have them 50/50 for nightimes, every Wed, Thurs then every other weekend. I tell you I think every wife should make her man live on his own with the kids for a few months. I learned real quick how difficult it is to run a household.

March 15th will be 2 years of separation. We live and work close by so we have seen alot of each other during this time. We have spent all the holidays together etc., but just not lived in the same house. Looking back it has been agonizingly painful alot of the time. I lost 30 pounds, could'nt stop crying, and the pain just would not stop for about the first six months or so. I even contemplated suicide many times (I would never do it though). I sure am glad I finally found this website though. It's only been a week but I already feel much better about my life.

On Monday I did 180's on calling her, and on feeling sorry for myself. Wow, what a difference that little change made in her in only two days. Last night she was warmer and more enthusiastic than she has been in four years. She actually said she had really good "feelings" about me and our evening together. She hugged me before I hugged her. She sat closer to me on the couch than she has in four years. I almost felt a little smothered. That is a huge change. I am going to enjoy this feeling, but I am not going to read more into it than what it is. It was a small success and today is a new day. I am sticking with these 180's because they are working right now. I am going to give her space, talk about other things besides our relationship, spend more time thinking and talking about my hobbies (backpacking and my upcoming trip to Italy), try to be a little less available, and most importantly act happy and enthusiastic. We'll see where this goes.

I read about your sitch, give me an update when you get a chance. I like the contract idea, but just be careful about setting and relying on time lines. You might be setting yourself up for dissappointment if you guys don't get back together when your contract says your supposed to. Contracts can always be extended though right!

My Best,

Tony