I wonder if part of this is because you went out last night.
Stay the course.
So...camping on Sunday.
No electronics?????
Completely unplug.
Tell wife in advance and let her feel what it's like to just be completely out of touch with her children for just one night. Not that you are concerned with what she feels or not....rather, YOU could use a night where you don't check your phone to see if she's called or texted and having to manage her feelings of missing the kids or not. The consequences may be felt or not...either way you get a night to just focus on your child.
Also let your DD4 KNOW you are doing this. Kids...especially young girls, need to see their parents (fathers especially) "unplug" from the internet to spend time in real human interactions. As the father of a children who live connected to their phones, I can't stress enough the importance of this lesson early on. It should be a habit that you do this. Might also be something you explain to your wayward wife: "listen...I will be turning off my phone and unplugging from the electronic world tonight and tomorrow to spend time with DD4 and teach her that "unplugging" is important before she gets older, plugs in and disappears into her phone like every other young girl I see out there".
Finally. If you wife has to work sunday and she comes to you discussing this second thoughts thing again....maybe..maybe (using your own judgment here) you could invite her to come along. Call in sick to work and come camping with you and your daughter on the condition she "unplugs" too.
We are always trying to watch their actions instead of listening to their words. Well, calling in sick and not taking the opportunity to see or speak to OM in order to go camping with her husband and child would be an action consistent with her actually having second thoughts. It's not lights out "we are recovering". She misses her family and time with you but doesn't really know why and she could just take this offer, come and "eat cake" so to speak and decide to be back on the divorce train monday (so NO expectations). But your daughter would LOVE to see you all together and it might make any impending divorce better for her. Some last memories together having fun. No heavy relationship talk. No chasing. If she rejects the invite...no biggie.
Just a thought.
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