Cadet has hit a nail on the head here. How many times do you here of people having affairs who actually end up as a happy couple? At my workplace one guy was messing with a girl 16 years his junior. So, he left his wife for her, within six months she got bored, wife didn't want him back and due to his position within the company, and his lack of work whilst he was 'busy' with his new woman, he lost his post. So, out of the house, out of work, no partner and the kids won't talk to him.

Essence of story is, it's exciting to kick off with, but, when reality bites and the temperature cools down, you have lost it all for nothing.

Have hope. Unless there is abuse etc. use Sandi's rules to tempt them back.


M 45 W 52
SD22 S9 D8
BD 6 April 2015
Not living together 4 Dec 2015