Whoa, I'm not suffering much anymore! Now what?!?

[Joe46]

I would like to put in my 2 cents on this topic. I have been following this for a bit. This is just my opinion. I do have a little experience with this as WW and I have dealt with the porn issue. To me, addiction to porn where it is a problem is when it takes up your free time, spending too much money on it, spending money you don't have on it, would rather watch porn than anything else and if it causes problems in a relationship. I can also see where it could be a problem because someone is more comfortable with porn than interacting in a actual relationship.

My WW has accused me of always having to watch porn when we fooled around. This came up a couple months ago of course. I did validate her concern and apologized if I had hurt her in anyway. But the truth was, she wanted to watch it just as much as I did. She used to stop and pick up a movie once in awhile years ago. I also would start fooling around with her and she would say, why don't you put a movie in. She liked to play around and it worked for us because it was mutual. However, now I am a pig because it was all my fault and she just did it because that is what I wanted.

I watch porn from time to time. I do not spend a dime on it. But I am human and have urges. It is what it is. I am hoping that whoever I end up with in the future will want to spice things up also, but it is not a requirement for me. My WW pretty much controlled the bedroom stuff. If she was in the mood, we were good. If not, I may have played around to see if I could start something. If it worked, great. If not I left it alone. Have I had feelings of rejection at times, YES. But I got over it. I am human. I have emotions.

I think if someone feels they have a big problem than maybe they need to seek help to control it some. But if someone enjoys porn from time to time or wants it to be a big thing in the bedroom, than find a partner that also wants it. They are out there. Hopefully I made some sense. I am not on the intellectual level alot of you others are!! LOL!! I am just a simple country boy!!