Quote: My wife has always maintained friendships with other men which I have always supported because I have trusted her and she is a person that is trustworthy. Recently, she has developed an intimate friendship with a M co-worker who is going through a divorce. She insists there is nothing more than friendship; however, I am scared to death.
This may not be what you are looking for but I'm all about the truth and having as much info as possible. So..I'm going to quote something
From the book "not just friends" by shirley P Glass Ph.d with Jean staeheli
first page of the book.......
"Surprisingly, the infidelity that I'm seeing these days is of a new sort. It's not between two people who are intentionally seeking thrills, as is commenly believed. The new infidelity is between people who unwittingly form deep, passionate connections before realizing they've crossed the line between plotonic friendship into romantic love. 82% I've treated have had an affair with someone who was at first "just a friend."
It goes on to say the work place is the new danger zone.
Not what you wanted to hear I'm sure.
Quote: Should I keep monitoring the e-mails even though it is killing me to know she has such an intimate male friend?
That is up to you, most people here will tell you not to. I, however, believe in knowing the truth. Better to find out NOW than later. I'm sure you'll have many people here disagree with me. it's just MO.
