Sorry about your situation, but it looks to me like you guys are working towards something positive. Your M must be special on some level, bec you have been able to maintain a relationship that appears to be outside the topic of your children. Now what frightens me is the eavesdropping. Other than know exactly what she is writing to people, what do you hope to gain by invading her privacy like that? And if in fact, she did have an intimate relationship with someone else, and you find out via her emailing, what would you do with the information? Would you be able to keep quiet about it, or would you be tempted to confront her? And think about this, if you did confront her, and she figured out your source, would she be able to trust you as a friend and partner? Invading someone's privacy to me has always been a sketchy topic. You have to be really really careful when treading on that terrain.
I don't know if i have been any help .. pretty new to this message board myself ..... but i will keep up with your sitch. I can reassure you, that people on this board are very supportive and offer wonderful suggestions. So keep coming back, and good luck. Helen
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