Hi there,
I was just having my coffee & thought that I would check in ... didn't expect this! grin
(a few responses since I posted ... )

Firstly, it will take too much time to reply now as I have meditation, an errand & my project - a BUSY day today, so will do so sometime tomorrow.

Secondly
, 25yrsmlc although I have literally (!!) skimmed through these replies, I am NOT offended. In many instances you pretty much hit the nail on the head! eek I have not always been able to 'do', or think clearly so I was not even effective to myself (this has been evident in other (!) areas of my life as well, & I did have concerns at one time - sadly it was 1 more thing for me to worry about in addition to all that was going on).

Lastly, I appreciate ALL the feedback incl. BF & AJ! smile Having this 'conversation' allows me to see someone else's 'take' on my sitch. When one is 'drenched' in an emotional whirlwind for whatever reason, it's hard to 'see' properly. Vision is not objective or logical, often marred by a brain in distress.

When I get advice from forum members, I get an external view of things. Something I can only benefit from (no matter what the opinion of each!)
Great food for thought! cool THANK YOU all !! 'e-talk' tomorrow, p.


pbetra
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M: 15 yrs (in 2014)
BD: 6/03/2014
Infidelity ('known' from July 2014)
Denied PA Feb 2015
2 leave Mar 2015 (left early Summer). Some contact.
Back briefly 2017 (after family death)
Separated 2017